英文原文：How To Stop Doubting Yourself
Has there been a time where you had no sense of direction?
It always went like this for me: Whenever there is a new goal, I tend to be very optimistic about it. I always get energized and can’t wait to get things moving.
These goals of yours can be anything, like losing weight, saving up money, or perhaps wanting to become famous one day! These are all very exciting things to look forward to, and most of us will be eager to get the ball rolling.
Then along the way, you are suddenly hit by an unexpected wave of doubts.
Doubts that make you think that everything doesn’t matter anymore. Doubts that make you think that you took the wrong road. Doubts that make you want to give it all in. It’s almost too hard to say “I will keep on going” and instead, quit.
So the number on the weight scale isn’t moving. Your bank account doesn’t seem to be increasing. Trying to become famous is almost a joke. It seems as if everything is doubtful.
On a day to day basis, it can be hard to keep yourself motivated. It can be hard to hold your head high up. At the same time, we all need to keep on going. What we think or feel at this very moment doesn’t matter. What does matter is how we respond to it.
I will feel stress, but stress is another way of letting me know that I’m breathing; that I’malive.
Without stress, we would never know what feels good. The main important thing is that you do not give up. Because once you give up, then no one can help you.
I run a personal development website. Ironic thing is that there are times where I will feel unmotivated about myself. Even the toughest knight has his weakest moment. Even though I run such website, it doesn’t mean that I am forbidden to ever feel doubtful from time to time.
Just because you’re expected to do something, it doesn’t mean that you will have second thoughts and regrets.
But do not let these second thoughts and regrets make you quit what you started. You and I both need to keep going.
Here are the following things that kept my mind positive again—even after being unsuccessful and having doubts.
Take A Break
Sometimes it is our mind that goes against us. I will find that my time spent alone, doing absolutely nothing, will help get me straighten out.
I think. I ponder. Sometimes I will wonder why this is meant to be. Then I realized why I wanted this; why I started it.
Many people often quit at something they began. There may be several reasons, such as time constraint or other’s opinions that influences their belief system. Either way, it is no excuse.
Whenever you find yourself having doubts, take a break. Give yourself time to think. Ask yourself what made you get into this goal. It will get you to realize why you started it in the first place.
Finding support
It’s not always easy coping things alone. I find my own support through friends and reading other inspirational websites.
Sometimes we all need to hear something that will get us moving again. We just need to reach out to others who understand us. For many years, I thought holding this feeling inside would be fine. It’s not.
The good news is that there is someone out there who understands you. There is someone out there who has gone through what you are going through. It’s all about relating to that person for support, and perhaps inspiration.
That stress needs to be let out, so don’t hold it in.
It Starts With Yourself
Remember that you run your own life. You are responsible for any plans and actions that you make. In between that, it’s your belief system that takes the planning and action to execute itself physically.
If you cannot learn to support your own belief system, then others can’t expect to support you.
As humans, we will face time where there is no sense of direction. There will be a time where we will all reach a low point in life. From a larger scale, it’s not what you feel during these moment that matters. It’s how you make out of it that determines the real result.
The next time you ever doubt yourself, remember that it is only temporary. Don’t make it into a permanent thing by acting on it unwisely. Give yourself time and support, because the decision that you make today will affect you forever.
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Dennis Do is the founder of Self Exceed.com. He talks about anything relating to self improvement that comes from his personal experiences. His advice tends to help others while trying to display a sense of humor and seriousness. He can also be found on his YouTube channel and various social media.
翻译：Michaelhan666
是否曾几何时你也感到过迷茫？
对我来说事情是这样的：一旦有了一个新的目标，我往往会很乐观，总是精力充沛，而且迫不及待地想着手去做。
这些目标可以是任何事情，比如减肥，存钱，或者想某天成名。这些都是令人向往的事情。我们大多数人会渴望开始去做。
但是半途中，你可能突然会满脑子充满疑虑。
这些疑虑会让你感觉一切都不再重要。这些疑虑还让你感觉自己走错了路。这些疑虑还让你把一切都放弃。到时候你就很难说“我会坚持下去”，相反，你会说“我放弃”。
因此重量称上的数值不再减小；银行账号里的钱不再增多；想成名几乎成了一个笑话。看起来，一切都是值得怀疑的。
每天来说，我们很难来激励自己。自己很难抬头挺胸。同时，我们都需要继续走下去。此刻我们如何想已不重要，重要的是我们如何回应它。
我会感到有压力，但是压力还是另一种让我们意识到我们还在呼吸还活着的方式。
没有压力，我们永远不会知道什么感觉好。最重要的事情是不要放弃。因为你一旦放弃，就没人能够救你了。
我在经营一个关于个人发展的网站。令人讽刺的事情是本人自己有时候也会感到没有动力。即使最强壮的骑士也会有最虚弱的时候。这意味着我偶尔也会怀疑自己。
因为你期望做某事，但是那不意味着你不会重新考虑和懊悔。但是不要让这些新想法或懊悔使你停止你已经开始做的事情。你我都需要坚持下去。
如下的几点会让我的思想再次保持积极向上--即使失败或者心存疑虑。
休息一下
有时是我们的大脑在跟我们作对。我发现独处一会，什么都不做，这样会帮助我恢复过来。
我思考，沉思。有时我会想为什么会是这样。接着我意识到我为什么要这样做，为什么我开始做这个。
许多人常常中途退出。可能会有几个原因，比如时间瓶颈，或者他人的观点撼动了他的信念体系。无论哪种方式，都是借口。
无论什么时候你心存疑虑时，一定要休息一下。给自己点时间思考。问自己怎么样才能接近目标。这样会使你第一时间意识到为什么你开始做这件事。
寻求支持
单枪匹马总是很难解决问题。我会通过我的朋友和给人以灵感和鼓舞的网站来寻求支持。
有时我们都需要聆听一些让我们再次坚持下去的事情。我们仅需要向了解我们的人伸手寻求支持。多年来，我一直认为内心里一直坚持下去就可以了，但事实并非如此。好消息是还有能够理解你的人，有与你经历相似的人。找这些人寻求支持，或是寻求灵感。
压力需要释放，所以不要都憋在心里。
从自己开始
切记你在经营自己的人生。你为你的每个计划和行动负责。而在计划和行动之间，则是你的信念体系使你的机会和行动得以实施。如果你自己不学着支持自己的信念体系，那么他人便更不能支持你。
作为人，我们都会遇到失去方向的时候，也都会经历人生的低谷。从大的方面来讲，那时候的感受并不重要，而重要的如何走出去，这才会决定最后的结果。
下次你怀疑自己的时候，切记这只是暂时的。不要让不明智的行动造成终身的遗憾。给自己一些时间，支持自己，因为你今天做的决定会永远影响你。